On Saturday, a friend of mine turned 100 years old. The party was a HUGE success.
The previous few day I spent in intense cleaning to get my house presentable for the event – and I spent mush of that time stressed as well. Why?:
- I finally realized that I hadn’t had any real company to my house for over 5 years – since before dad and Michael died – and hadn’t really done any deep “company” cleaning in at least that long. For the last number of years, even the guys haven’t come out here – not since one of them built a bar in he and his partner’s basement and it has become the place for us to hang out.
- I knew there would be children at the party – five of them. I prefer not to be around children – they are often loud and obnoxious – and they make me pretty anxious.
- I didn’t know most of the people who would be at my house – the majority were family of the honoree who came in from out-of-town.
- I was still in the grips of a mini depression, and wasn’t completely myself.
- I was afraid the honoree would want to leave after only a few minutes. Since she almost never leaves her house (I have found doctors and eye-care folks, and hearing aid folks to make house calls, I and another friend of hers buys her groceries, and I have learned how to cut her hair), I was afraid she would go into a mini-panic after just a short while and feel the need to go back home.
What I discovered:
- My house was filthy. On the surface it usually appears relatively clean and tidy, but there were some areas I’m sure I had not dusted for at least five years (yea, I find that pretty disgusting as well).
- The children at the party were some of the most well-behaved and well-supervised children (at least two parents stayed in the sun room to supervise the five children at all times – it rained the entire time) I’ve had the honor of being around. I was amazed at what good kids they truly were.
- My dog (a Pitt Bull) is great around children. She is usually a very sweet dog, but I haven’t seen her around children since I got her as a rescue about a year ago. She had the best time with the kids, and they with her.
- The people I didn’t know until the day of the event were some of the nicest folks! The family of the honoree provided all the food, drink and decorations – and they came over a few hours before the beginning of the party and set everything up so nicely – and did a good amount of cleaning up afterwards.
- The honoree seemed to have a great time and made no fuss about leaving early, and in fact, the party lasted a full two and a half hours (a half hour longer than expected) before she announced it was time for her to go home.
- I need to relax a little bit and expect the good instead of anticipating the bad. I was worried about all the things that could go wrong instead of thinking of all the things that could go right.